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Guest Post: The Kiss… by Rachel Van Dyken

My first kiss wasn’t awful…I was one of the lucky ones. I mean I’ve heard terrible horror stories about first kisses. You know the types, teeth knocking, bad breath, misplaced hands, awkward nose touching…the list goes on! 

It’s amazing what your mind remembers or chooses to remember. For one thing, I remember that it was kind of cold outside. The tree I was standing next to smelled really good, and the guy who kissed me was super gentle and slow. 

Again I KNOW thats not the norm 😉

Okay so why is this crazy author talking about first kisses? 

Here it is….call me weird, but I’m always trying to re-life those first life experiences so that I can explain them in my books. 

A kiss is never just a kiss, a touch is never just a touch, a first caress of someones fingertips? It needs to be real. For the reader, it’s a huge moment. 

I’ve always been a fan of those authors that can get your heart to clench in your chest! Or possibly cause you to gasp for breath when something crazy hapens. 

I think my goal as an author is to be able to get people to sigh when they read a kissing scene. So many books this day and age skip the first touch or kiss and go straight to the sex, skipping the build up totally kills the entire scene for me. 

Everytime I write a kissing scene (okay so not everytime but close) I ask my husband to kiss me. He thinks its hilarious, but I’m dead serious! I need it to be fresh in my mind if I’m gong to explain it. 

Reading should always be an escape into a fantasy, whether it be a kiss, a dance in a ballroom, or something else. 

I used to be a teacher/school counselor so I’m all about giving homework 😉 Next time you kiss someone…I want you to actually think about it. Don’t let it be something habitual.

Make it last.

Make it real. 

And relish in the feeling.

Then perhaps next time you read a story, it will be not only real to you, but you’ll get those warm fuzzies. 


Rachel Van Dyken is the New York Times and USA Today Bestselling author of regency and contemporary romances. When she’s not writing you can find her drinking coffee at Starbucks and plotting her next book while watching The Bachelor. 

She keeps her home in Idaho with her Husband and their snoring Boxer, Sir Winston Churchill. She loves to hear from readers! You can follow her writing journey at

Twitter: @RachVD, Facebook: Rachel Van Dyken Author

9 thoughts on “Guest Post: The Kiss… by Rachel Van Dyken”

  1. Very cute post, Rachel. I won a contest for writing about my first kiss. When I wrote “Mr. Short, Dark…& Funny,” I based my hero loosely on a friend of mine, so it was really hard to write the first kiss scene between him and my heroine. I had to remember my late husband, and my first kiss from him. Good thing I write sweet contemporary! The love scenes in that book could have really been a problem.

      1. The story was fun to write (and so was “Mr. Short, Dark…& Funny”). I might have a copy of it somewhere. I lost a lot of stuff in a fire in 2005, but my best friend had copies of a lot of things I wrote, so I might have it.

  2. Such a cute post, it brought a smile to my face. I too had a good first kiss experience, which I good because I married the guy. Sweet and bit sad at the same time to think the only guy I have ever kissed is my husband. 15 years later he and I still joke about it.

  3. Rachel, thanks for sharing today. I did have to laugh, though, because my mom won’t read certain parts of my books because she doesn’t want to think about me doing THAT with Bob… I shake my head and tell her that just because I write it doesn’t mean I do it, and yet, I’m not brave enough to post about MY first kiss for fear she’ll read it and have a coronary.

  4. There’s always something missing for me when characters jump right into sex. That first kiss, those initial feelings…they are SO important. In fact, I’m fine with there being no sex at all if the romance is steamy enough without it.

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